How do I love me, let me count the ways

Painting by Chryssa Wolfe

Solo Love Song video/practice
“Spell to Re-genius Yourself” video/practice
Raise a hand in blessing listen/movement

Created by: Cassandra Sagan
Narcissism, vanity, self-absorption, conceit—who says we only have one word for self-love? Yet the Wise Ones say we must fall in love ourselves before we can truly love another. Luckily there are a zillion juicy, sweet, attractive, redemptive, fun ways to love ourselves. (Is there a word for healthy self-love?) It turns out that all of the joy, dignity, creativity, fun, stability, spontaneity, contentment, excitement that we have ever felt with a lover is ours for the reclaiming.


Take a deep breath and let it out with a sigh…

Solo Love Song video/practice

Listen to my Solo Love Song:

Have a romantic evening…alone. Or a romantic minute. Put on some music, light a candle, slip into something a little more conducive. Shake it out, move for a while. Create a song of praise for yourself, or a dance, or a poem. Pick something you absolutely adore: the Mediterranean, chocolate pudding, your dog, moonlight, bananas in the moonlight— and then describe yourself as if you are that thing.  Write your own SILLY SONG OF MYSELF— I am a mountain tickled by snowboarders. I am the spinning of the Earth, the velocity of velociraptors. Sing or speak or write with a thick foreign accent. Look at yourself in the mirror with the same generosity of heart with which you gaze at a beloved friend. Resolve to always look upon yourself with the same expansive kindness you offer others. Sing/write/dance about the things you love to do when you’re alone alone, smile at an inside joke. Exaggerate. “I love my eyes, they remind me of_____.” Love the One you’re with. Repeat whenever the mood strikes. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat.

“Spell to Re-genius Yourself”video/practice

Here’s Rob Brezsny, author of PRONOIA Is The Antidote for Paranoia; How the Whole World is Conspiring to Shower You with Blessings, describing his “Spell to Re-genius Yourself”. Watch, and then create your own!

Raise a hand in blessing

When we dance hand-to-hand we often practice opening the space between us. We can feel that connection even when we aren’t right together. This time, start by pressing one palm against the other. Hold your own hand, wiggle your fingers, tickle your life lines. And then, when you’re ready, raise a hand in blessing. Turn in a full circle (or not) and know that others are sending blessings to you too.

Listen to SKINNY BONES by The Ditty Bops

Take a deep breath and let it out with a sigh.


Note: This week’s posting is created by Cassandra Sagan. Cassandra is a Portland, OR InterPlay leader and organizer, a writer, a poet in the schools, a Ukelele playing songstress, and a leader in her synagogue.


One Response to How do I love me, let me count the ways

  1. fridaymorninginterplay says:

    Cassandra–Love your song! Thank you for writing it, singing it, and sharing it with us!

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